Realistic Expectations are a Key to a Successful Marriage
First, much of the disappointment we face is that we've carried unrealistic expectations into the situations and relationships of our daily lives. Every relationship involves expectations, whether it's at “Home,” at “Church,” Bob Biehl is a much appreciated author and speaker on Christian management. can commit themselves to agreed-upon realistic expectations. Redeeming the Realities of Marriage: Q: You write that all couples enter marriage with some unrealistic expectations. Christian Living Every relationship is victimized in some way when we seek to get from the surrounding creation what.
Unrealistic expectations become unmet expectations. Unmet expectations become friction in a marriage. Make a plan that works for both of you.
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Knowing what to expect helps couples avoid unmet expectations. Discuss the most common expectations listed below. Ask each other the following questions.
Make a plan together that works for the both of you. Who will manage the money? How will we budget? Future financial goals for savings and spending?
How will we handle debt? What is the role of a spiritual leader? Who will walk in this role? Where will we go to church? Will we pray together? Should we volunteer together or separate? Do we communicate well? How do we communicate? How do we process?
Who will manage our money? What will we spend our money on?
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When do we need to check with the other before spending? What are our savings goals? How often will we be sexually intimate? How much time will we spend with them weekly, monthly, yearly?
How involved will they be in our relationship? How will we divide holidays between yours and mine? Which ones and how much? How much time away will we take from our kids weekly, monthly, yearly? Which of us will stay home with the kids or will we put them in childcare?
Who will provide childcare — a daycare or family? What kind of schooling? How, where, when with whom will we celebrate? Will we celebrate Valentines Day? Do we fall into gender stereotypes? Are we ok with that? Will we hire someone to do them?
For date nights, will we go out or stay home? If not, let me fill you in. When you pull the trigger, these balls spread over a large range, increasing the chance you hit the target. Five of those should be keepers.
Hopefully one will end up as my spouse. Get to know yourself. Suddenly, when marriage begins, you are asked to flip a switch.
Date with a trajectory towards marriage. Let me prove it. God knows it is not good for man to be by himself. Enter Eve, pro-creation, and marriage not necessarily in that order. And the most intimate community on earth is the relationship you will have with your spouse. So, pray for God to send you a spouse. Wait on the Lord. See it as an opportunity to serve God.
Change Your Expectations
But so is marrying a sleezeball. When you date, allow the community of people around to speak into your relationship. Your feelings can deceive you.